Slob Dads

by Idaho Dad on May 4, 2010

I wouldn’t necessarily label myself as a slob.

It’s more accurate to say I’m fashion-challenged.

There was a time when I cared about the clothes I wore. But then children came along, and then homeschooling, and suddenly there was not even a minute of the day to think about clothes beyond making sure they pass the smell test.

Actually, I do put some thought into fashion when it comes to my kids. I make sure my daughter doesn’t go out of the house half-naked, and that my son doesn’t show up at soccer practice in a Wiggles t-shirt.

But me? Psshh. Who cares. Seriously, who cares how I look?

I’m showered and shaved. Deodorant liberally applied. Hair, ummm, under a hat.

You will not be frightened as I approach from one end of the cereal aisle at the grocery store.

You will not pass out as I reach for the Frosted Mini-Wheats on the top shelf.

Stay-at-home homeschooling dads do have certain standards. What we don’t have is the time, inclination, or money to regularly shop for clothing when there’s a perfectly good pair of Wrangler jeans from 1999 in the closet to go along with our comfortable collection of sports team t-shirts.

Am I alone here, or are there other stay-at-home dads who have sensibly given up on the fashion game?

{ 16 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Dan May 4, 2010 at 11:48 pm

I am a complete and utter slob. The only reason I have a beard is I can’t be bothered to shave.
.-= Dan´s last blog ..Joined by an idiot =-.


2 Father of five May 5, 2010 at 2:56 am

I’m not even a SAHD and I could be called a “slob” – actually, I prefer to call it the “Hobo Look” – it’s a new fashion trend don’t cha know? I struggle to get things to match, and the Mother of Five is always “reminding” me that those two items do not match…

Yeah, I think I would fit in with the “riding the rails” folks…


3 Steve May 5, 2010 at 3:45 am

Not a SAHD but I can’t claim any more effort than yourself. On the weekend, to please my wife I put in contact lenses rather than wear glasses. That’s how far I push the boat out.


4 Kevin May 5, 2010 at 6:27 am

It’s funny you should be writing about this, I had a discussion about this very topic yesterday morning with another parent while waiting to leave for a school field trip.
I’m with you on the fashion thing. I put more thought into our kids fashion than my own, for sure. However, I try not to look that bad.
I’ll be posting my thoughts on my personal fashion this evening.


5 Helen Hegener May 5, 2010 at 12:44 pm

Enjoying your posts:
.-= Helen Hegener´s last blog ..Nature Journaling for Kids =-.


6 terry May 5, 2010 at 1:12 pm

LOL!! I’ve got scrubs for work and jeans/shorts & a t-shirt for play. I tried to flex my fashion muscles & they don’t work well anymore!! :-)


7 Idaho Dad May 5, 2010 at 1:38 pm

Everyone should wear scrubs. All the time. Everywhere. It just makes more sense. Comfy, elastic, washable.


8 terry May 11, 2010 at 2:26 pm

We can start a new ‘fashion’ trend! LOL!!


9 SuburbanDaddy May 6, 2010 at 7:25 am

Not a SAHD, but I’m with you! It isn’t intentional to be a slob. I just don’t have the time or energy. What’s the point? My kids will laugh at me and be embarrassed one day.
.-= SuburbanDaddy´s last blog ..Table Manners =-.


10 Ed May 6, 2010 at 11:58 am

T-shirt and jeans (or shorts) pretty much describes my closet.

Funny, just yesterday I bought some new clothes. Well, new to me. Found a store near the college campus called Rag O’ Rama. Got a great pair of shorts and a t-shirt for under $15.

I wouldn’t necessarily say I’m a slob — rather, I’m comfortable.
.-= Ed´s last blog ..More You =-.


11 Seattledad (Luke, I am Your Father) May 6, 2010 at 7:55 pm

You are not alone. There is a under fashioned dad army out here waiting for your command.
.-= Seattledad (Luke, I am Your Father)´s last blog ..My 1st Giveaway – $50 PayPal Gift Card =-.


12 Darren May 7, 2010 at 9:10 am

I can usually get away with t-shirts and jeans at work…unless I’m meeting funders or someone else important. I do make the effort to choose the right t-shirt though (which usually means it’s clean, it fits, and I like it).
.-= Darren´s last blog ..Barbie and The Greatest Story Ever Told =-.


13 brettdl May 9, 2010 at 12:25 pm

I dress differently since I started to work from home, but not necessarily worse. Money has had the bigger impact.
.-= brettdl´s last blog ..Children Are Why We Care <br>About Environmental Safety =-.


14 Idaho Dad May 9, 2010 at 4:16 pm

Money is definitely a factor. It’s hard to justify spending money on myself when there are more important expenses that need tending to. That’s one reason I cut my own hair. Hey, maybe I should make my own clothes.


15 Corina Mackay May 10, 2010 at 9:17 pm

Your note about dressing your kids reminds me of my Dad: I grew up in the early 90s and my Dad was very into originality and individualism. Whilst he enjoyed the comfort of various varieties of happy pants and singlets, he was very strongly in favour of my dressing myself for Kindergarten, and would only interfere to the point of keeping my hair out of my eyes with a scrunchie. To this day, I blame my lack of fashion sense on him.


16 Marlis May 17, 2010 at 9:01 am

LOL, we women can be fashion challenged too. I am a fashion disaster and I do blame that on my parents. My parents were very fashionable themselves. They both worked in corporate settings. My father was always dressed impeccably in suit with a tie and shiny shoes (which me made ME shine every week) and my mother too always dressed conservatively yet beautifully. Me? I was dressed in hand-me-downs some a decade or so old. And those not even from my own siblings because I am an only child. I was never taught to observe fashion. Now, in their defense I was a tomboy and clothes took a beating with me and you had to threaten me with severe punishment and grounding to get me to wear a dress or skirt until I turned 14. When I was nine and ten I begged my mother a few times for something everyone else was wearing and was denied. We didn’t have the money she said. Sure plenty of money for her handbag and sexy shoes collection. Later as a teen I was a bit more into fashion but never had the money to get much of anything. And by then I realized it really didn’t matter that much anyway. Besides, since I was the social outcast at any rate who was I going to impress?

Now, I am a homeschoolin’ Mama who tries to dress a little bit better when I visit the office but by and large it’s T-shirts and jeans, no make-up and my unruly hair in a ponytail.

But here’s the question to you all… do you notice a spill over effect on your kids? I don’t want my kids to identify themselves by the label on their clothes but I generally want them dressed reasonably well. I do admit to wrinkling my nose when they attempt to get by me with wearing Hanes fleece pants to the store. Not a chance. And maybe my mother did influence me a bit after all. There is no way any one would catch me outside my house in shorts. I am chunky and I think chunky ladies do themselves a disfavor by wearing shorts in public. Or those tight gympants with panty line and all sorts of bulges showing. Not happening. Jeans and T-shirt fine…scrubs not unless I am scrubbing something. Where do you all draw the lines?
.-= Marlis´s last blog ..Product Review and No ! I am not getting paid for it. =-.


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